You have to know this before you start with BDSM!

Do you want to discover the world of BDSM, but don’t know where to start? We will tell you right away that it is much more than just tying someone up, blindfolding or hitting them. BDSM is very broad and there are different roles, genres and styles. Would you like to experiment with it? Then read on.

What exactly is BDSM?

BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. A sadist likes to hurt someone else and a masochist gets sexually excited by being hurt. So someone will take on the role of Dominant (Dom for short) and of submissive (sub for short) during BDSM. The Dominant takes all the reins during the erotic game. Therefore, it is often called the dominant / submissive game. So it is clear that the submissive power relationship is central to BDSM.

Benefits of BDSM

Did you know that BDSM has its advantages? If you are a beginner, this may sound strange. Yet we are convinced that the benefits of BDSM can push you over the edge. The reality of BDSM is that it is insanely exciting, incredibly intimate and so much fun that you lose track of time. In addition, one study showed that the sense of connection and intimacy between partners increases when they engage in it. Another study even showed that they felt better in their relationships, had a greater sense of well-being, were less anxious, were more extroverted and less sensitive to the perceptions of others.

Why do some people like it?

The feeling of having power over someone can be exciting for some people. Others engage in it to escape reality for a while. During a BDSM game, a person can take on a different role more easily than in their normal life. Besides, certain substances are released when you engage in it. On the one hand, the substance endorphins are released when the submissive experiences pain. This makes you feel happy. On the other hand, adrenaline is released, which works as a natural painkiller. In short, the pain is not only suppressed but also experienced as a blissful feeling by the submissive.

BDSM toys for beginners

Has this article convinced you to experiment with BDSM? Start small and simple so you can first discover each other’s limits and wishes. We recommend the following toys to start with.

Small flogger

flogger

This is a whip with multiple strips. You can use this as a Dominant to punish your submissive or caress him softly with it. As a beginning BDSM user, it is better to start with a small flogger that has shorter strips. In most cases, the flogger is used on the buttocks, back and thighs.

Tickler

It is a very simple but versatile toy with which you can perfectly ‘tease’ your submissive. The silicone tickler is suitable for soft play, but also for harder work.

Nipple clamps

By using nipple clamps, you can stimulate the nipples. Nipples contain a lot of nerve endings and when you clamp them, a shooting pain occurs. It also reduces the blood flow. For extra stimulation, you can pull on the clamps.

Toys for pros

Have you been practising BDSM for years and want to try something new? Then try exploring one of the following toys.

Drip candles

Often hot candle wax is used during a BDSM game. This can be an ordinary candle, but there are also special BDSM candles, which become less hot than an ordinary candle, reducing the risk of burns. The feeling of hot wax on the body can provide an exciting and tingling sensation.

Dilator

A dilator is used to penetrate the urethra. This toy is most often used by male submissives. Some find the sensation of a stretched and irritated urethra exciting.

Pinwheel

This toy contains a handle with a rotating wheel with sharp points. Usually, a Dominant uses this to roll over the body of the submissive, thereby stimulating the nerves. The pressure that the Dominant puts on the wheel will determine whether the wheel will leave a mark or not.

Now you are ready to discover BDSM! We wish you a lot of fun.

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